Sample Order of Ceremonies
All wedding ceremonies are unique to each couple. In fact, aside from the legal requirements, this will be a day where possibilities are almost limitless. However for those feeling overwhelmed by choice, I’ve included below the main ingredients people often include in their wedding ceremony.
HOUSEKEEPING - An opportunity to 'set the tone' for the ceremony. To announce any housekeeping and ensure everyone is in their seats before the ceremony begins.
PROCESSIONAL - This is where the bride (or groom) walks down the aisle preceded by whomever she/he chooses really! Traditionally it will be the bride with her bridesmaids, accompanied by her father. There are no rules, so do what feels right for you.
INTRODUCTION - Here I introduce myself, the couple and their wedding party. Family and friends are warmly welcomed and often a poignant or amusing anecdote is shared about the couple.
BLESSING THE UNION/GIVING AWAY - This is a unique opportunity to publicly acknowledge and express gratitude to your parents, children, besties or those dearest to you. A ritual works beautifully here, often words are enough.
READINGS - The sky is the limit here. It doesn't necessarily have to be a reading. Whatever it is, it can be expressed through voice, instrument, body or movement. Make it meaningful for you.
MONITUM - This is the legal part. I am required by law to say:
“I am duly authorised by law to solemnise marriages according to law. Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter. Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”
THE “I DOs” - This part can stand on its own, be integrated into your vows or your ring ceremony or be left out all together.
LEGAL WORDING - Another part required by law that is easily integrated into you vows or your ring ceremony. The minimum legal wording is:
“I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, [full name], take thee, [full name], to be my lawful wedded wife (or husband)”
VOWS - You are free to use traditional vows or create your own. By crafting your own vows, in essence you are creating theoperating instructions of your relationship. These vows will be your promises to one another along with an opportunity to publicly express your feelings towards each other. It makes sense that they are meaningful to you and reflect your unique relationship.
RING CEREMONY - If you choose to exchange rings, this is your moment. It is also a moment to reflect on the symbolism of the rings and what they represent for you.
THE DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE - I have the honour here of announcing you as 'husband and wife' or your preferred combination.
SIGNING OF THE MARRIAGE REGISTER - I will provide a small table along with two chairs to sign all required legal documentation by you and your chosen witnesses (above 18yrs) . It'll take about five minutes. You will be presented with your signed Marriage Certificate at the ceremony.
BLESSING and RECESSION - This is one of my favourite parts. Here we all gush over the joy of the occasion and complete the ceremony but not the celebrations with an auspicious 'go forth' blessing as you embark on your new journey together as a married couple.